Love and Heartbreak

Heartbreak sucks, but it happens to the best of us. Sometimes, heartbreak serves as the best experience for us to shape our personality and/or to be more careful in the future. This doesn’t mean you deserve any kind of heartbreaks. It just means you need it; just like everyone needs it. No one gets to choose why and how it happens.

I feel like heartbreak is part of what makes love so beautiful. If you really think about it, they do complement each other well. True heartbreak won’t exist without love and vice versa. They say love is supposed to heal and not hurt you – but in my opinion, perfect heartbreak heals and hurts at the same time (and in a lot of cases, heals more than it does hurt).

The thing is, you should never let anyone break you heart repeatedly. There’s a thick line between making mistakes and actually being toxic, and if anyone crosses the line, you have every right to cut the person out of your life. It’s the least you can do to protect your own happiness. Heartbreak is important for everyone’s growth, but it should be healthy and actually encourage character development with minimal destruction; not the heartbreak from finding out your boyfriend cheats or something like that.

Examples of healthy heartbreak:

• letting go of your past,
• forgiving someone who wronged you but has apologized and shown so much efforts to change for the better,
• breaking up on good terms,
• leaving your family and childhood home so you can begin your adulthood,
• leaving or removing toxic people from your life.

See the patterns?

When you love someone else more than you love yourself, you let heartbreak consumes you but when you love yourself more, you let heartbreak teaches you life lessons. Both will change you – the only difference is one will give you trauma, trust issues or mental health issues, and the other one will not. That’s why I always dislike it when people defend abusive partners and abusive families – the pain and heartbreak that come from abuse are not beneficial at all. Even if abuse makes you strong, it scars you. It makes you negative, angry, aggressive, egoistic, lack empathy and sympathy, mean, anxious, etc.

In conclusion, love and heartbreak are equally important. But still, you can and you must try to minimize the amount of heartbreak you receive, maximize the amount of love you give and receive, and avoid damages at all costs.

Disclaimer: I know not all people can stop having bad/harmful heartbreaks. I know many people struggle with abusive “love”. I know many people are being emotionally manipulated. I’m sending love to you – you and your problems are valid, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m sorry if this post triggers and/or offend you. I have no bad intentions, and I’m here to promote self-love and healthy positivity. Once again, I’m sending love to everyone reading this. You matter.

Eternally Chanel loves you.